"Love is not the perfect conversation or an all-out boinkfest. It is not someone ordering the chicest appetizer or saying the perfect things when you open the door. In short, it is none of the surface things you pick up from leading men who know how to keep the heroine dying for more. Love only happens when you are willing to forgo all of those stereotypes of perfection and exchange them for an appreciation and love of the unique things that your someone does, to the best of their abilities, to make you happy."